Okay, so I haven't written in a while...I'm feeling all kinds of ways right now so I'm just going to write (type), and see what comes. I hope y'all don't get me up out of here for this...
I'm sad. About a lot of shit. My cousin is gone. Like, I don't even believe it. 33 years old and dead. I'm having a very hard time with this especially since I had it on my mind to reach out to him (it had been a few months since we last spoke) the day of his accident and I didn't. I remember saying "He's not online, I'll just catch him next time." (Usually even if he's not online I'll send him a message anyway and he gets back to me becaue of the time diffrence. He lived in Japan.) I really just don't konw how to feel at all. Everytime I think about his children I break down...I mean, he was all the way across the world and because of technology I never REALLY missed him because if I wanted I could reach him, and the ONE time I actually missed him the ONE time something said, "Helen, just shoot a message real quick and tell your cousin you love him." I didn't. I skyped three other people that day and none of them answered...and now I wonder would he have responded later? Could I have talked to him one more time? It makes me mad.
Also, Boo (my mini me) started daycare today...in the midst of all of my sadness, this morning I had to put on my big girl panties and leave my only child with complete strangers for a full 9 and a half hours, and to add salt to my wound I don't even get to pick her up on her first day (or any day for that matter) because I have to be at work from 4-8. So, dealing with the above grief, as I drop my child off at day care at 7:30 in the morning knowing I won't see her again until 8:30 at night when I get home from work, I begin to get a little misty eyed (I did not cry inside of the daycare) and the lady in the daycare says "Don't cry, she will be fine." BITCH who the fuck are you!? Like, I just...I fucking hate the place. I just don't like the whole air around it, but they are the only state licenced daycare facilit in my city, which sucks major wildabeast ass. The lady who is over the whole place is...I don't even know how to describe it. I'll say this, she met me once, gave me a form to fill out and CALL her about...I called her about it and she couldn't remember who I was. She then schedules a 9am meeting with me to which she was 23 minutes late. ( I have a 9:30 class) at that meeting she tells me I can fill out the rest of the paper work on my child's first day (today) and give her the application fee. She wasn't there yet I couldn't do either thing...(well, perhaps I could have, but no one there offered to do either of those things with me). I went to take the payment and fill out the paperwork when I got out of class at 1 and she was getting in her car to leave and go pick up children for the afterschool program. As she sits in her vehicle with the door open talking at me over her car door she says, "You know she don't like to mind? She has a problem with listening." and then proceeded to tell me that my child rolled her eyes at a teacher and let out a sigh when she was asked to do something (which I do not put past my child, but she said it like, "you know she do that right, you seen it" well no, she may sigh and put her head down if she doesn't like something, but NO she does not roll her eyes at me or anyone else in my house and what the hell kind of adult gets upset because a TWO YEAR OLD breathes hard in their direction?) You know...just typing this is making me a little angry so I'm going to stop now...
Thank y'all for reading this if you got this far...I'm going to be alright...your prayers/wishes of good outcome on this are welcome and appreciated and I offer the same to you in all your tough situations. Be blessed. I promise the next post will be better. I'm out.
Monday, September 24, 2012
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
The Swindle: A Vicious Cycle
Okay, so in being on social media and also having real life experiences of my own, I have come to realize a few valuable tidbits about people in general and about men and women separately. First of all, we're all full of shit. There. It's been said, and now that it's out of the way we can all move on. Men, y'all be lying and ladies we be falling for it. Now before I go any further and confuse someone out there like I said in the title this is a cycle and like in so many cycles it may not be clear where it begins and ends and begins again...BUT (I think) I GOT IT!!! Pull up a chair, kids, and listen up close.
We'll begin with the men. Fellas, y'all. be. lying. To women, to yourselves, to your friend zoned home girl, your dog. Just anyone who has ears to hear you will lie to them, and often times not even on purpose and then be mad when a bitch catches feelings and starts liking your ass -- lemme explain -- young men will say/do just about ANYTHING to get in some pannies (yes, pannies) when the ONLY thing that NEEDS to be said is, "Hey girl, I want to get in them pannies, please." You should always ask politely. (Now, check the title, I told y'all this is a cycle before you go hollering that shit will never work) Anything said or done beyond that in order to add a body to your count is a bold faced, bald headed ass, LIE! Taking her to the movies and out to eat and kicking it with her and asking about her day and sending good morning texts is only doing two things. A. Making her think that you like her and 2. making her like you and begin to develop feelings about and for you. STOP IT. If all you want is the draws just say it. There are only two answers that can follow. Yes. OR No. It's simple. She says yes: You do it. You leave. The end. If she says no, you move on. The end. It's not rocket science, folks. Think of it like this guys if she wants a relationship and you don't wouldn't you, after declining her offer, want her to move the hell on and leave you alone?
KEEP UP!
NOW LADIES!!! I know I know, half of you all are like, "I ain't bout to fuck no dude that just comes up and asks me for the sex, nah." BITCH, YOU LYIN!!! You knew you wanted to get with him the moment you saw him. You just don't want him to think you are a hoe. I ask, who gives a damn? We don't know your life all opinions of you are mere speculation. If you want him, get with him. The end. But for the sake of the cycle here were go. He takes you out (lying) selling you all kinds of woof tickets and you start to like him when all he wanted to do was fuck: THE SWINDLE there it is. DO NOT FALL for it!!! It is almost inevitable that you will spend time with this man and begin to develop some type of feelings for him. STOP! Recognize as soon as humanly possible if, in fact, you are being hit with a swindle. There are signs, "Well we talk a little, text, but he seem kinda shy like he don't talk much." CAUSE HE DON'T WANNA TALK TO YOU!!! He's not interested in knowing much more about you than what it is that that mouth do. I'm just saying. Recognize it and act accordingly. "On our first date he asked me to come back to his place after." WELL...I bet he put yo ass out after you're done too! There is nothing wrong with giving it to him. But do it on YOUR TERMS. Don't it to him because he took you out on a couple dates and now he is EXPECTING to get it. Nah, dawg it don't work that way. We stopped playing YOUR game the moment you started lying about what you wanted.
are you still with me???
Back to the fellas. You want bitches to fuck you. Cool. Stop calling them hoes for doing it. Simple. Being considered a hoe or called a slut is these hoes biggest insecurity. If you want them to give up the pannies STOP JUDGING. Would you, if every time you did something you like, oh let's say go shooting ball at the gym, got called cake boy? NO sir! You would stop playing ball all together. Saying that women who have sex with men because they like having sex is like saying men who shoot ball at the gym all day Saturday are pussies. It's just not damn true. So stop!
Now, let's recap. The cycle: Men want the pannies so they lie, women catch feelings because they've been given and illusion of reciprocation, y'all do the nasty and she all in love. And it just keeps going around and around and around. We gotta nip this in the bud guys. Just be upfront with people. Sure her feelings might be a little hurt cause all you wanna do is fuck, but hey she may still give it to you. Only NOW, since you were honest, she doesn't have any false expectations about what she is to you and who you will be to her. Of course you will have the occasional delusional bitch who gives it up and tries to change you. That's not your problem. STAY honest and in the court of love/hate/you wham bam thank you ma'am'd me you will be the who has the favored ruling!
You are dismissed.
Comment, like, discuss...whatever!
We'll begin with the men. Fellas, y'all. be. lying. To women, to yourselves, to your friend zoned home girl, your dog. Just anyone who has ears to hear you will lie to them, and often times not even on purpose and then be mad when a bitch catches feelings and starts liking your ass -- lemme explain -- young men will say/do just about ANYTHING to get in some pannies (yes, pannies) when the ONLY thing that NEEDS to be said is, "Hey girl, I want to get in them pannies, please." You should always ask politely. (Now, check the title, I told y'all this is a cycle before you go hollering that shit will never work) Anything said or done beyond that in order to add a body to your count is a bold faced, bald headed ass, LIE! Taking her to the movies and out to eat and kicking it with her and asking about her day and sending good morning texts is only doing two things. A. Making her think that you like her and 2. making her like you and begin to develop feelings about and for you. STOP IT. If all you want is the draws just say it. There are only two answers that can follow. Yes. OR No. It's simple. She says yes: You do it. You leave. The end. If she says no, you move on. The end. It's not rocket science, folks. Think of it like this guys if she wants a relationship and you don't wouldn't you, after declining her offer, want her to move the hell on and leave you alone?
KEEP UP!
NOW LADIES!!! I know I know, half of you all are like, "I ain't bout to fuck no dude that just comes up and asks me for the sex, nah." BITCH, YOU LYIN!!! You knew you wanted to get with him the moment you saw him. You just don't want him to think you are a hoe. I ask, who gives a damn? We don't know your life all opinions of you are mere speculation. If you want him, get with him. The end. But for the sake of the cycle here were go. He takes you out (lying) selling you all kinds of woof tickets and you start to like him when all he wanted to do was fuck: THE SWINDLE there it is. DO NOT FALL for it!!! It is almost inevitable that you will spend time with this man and begin to develop some type of feelings for him. STOP! Recognize as soon as humanly possible if, in fact, you are being hit with a swindle. There are signs, "Well we talk a little, text, but he seem kinda shy like he don't talk much." CAUSE HE DON'T WANNA TALK TO YOU!!! He's not interested in knowing much more about you than what it is that that mouth do. I'm just saying. Recognize it and act accordingly. "On our first date he asked me to come back to his place after." WELL...I bet he put yo ass out after you're done too! There is nothing wrong with giving it to him. But do it on YOUR TERMS. Don't it to him because he took you out on a couple dates and now he is EXPECTING to get it. Nah, dawg it don't work that way. We stopped playing YOUR game the moment you started lying about what you wanted.
are you still with me???
Back to the fellas. You want bitches to fuck you. Cool. Stop calling them hoes for doing it. Simple. Being considered a hoe or called a slut is these hoes biggest insecurity. If you want them to give up the pannies STOP JUDGING. Would you, if every time you did something you like, oh let's say go shooting ball at the gym, got called cake boy? NO sir! You would stop playing ball all together. Saying that women who have sex with men because they like having sex is like saying men who shoot ball at the gym all day Saturday are pussies. It's just not damn true. So stop!
Now, let's recap. The cycle: Men want the pannies so they lie, women catch feelings because they've been given and illusion of reciprocation, y'all do the nasty and she all in love. And it just keeps going around and around and around. We gotta nip this in the bud guys. Just be upfront with people. Sure her feelings might be a little hurt cause all you wanna do is fuck, but hey she may still give it to you. Only NOW, since you were honest, she doesn't have any false expectations about what she is to you and who you will be to her. Of course you will have the occasional delusional bitch who gives it up and tries to change you. That's not your problem. STAY honest and in the court of love/hate/you wham bam thank you ma'am'd me you will be the who has the favored ruling!
You are dismissed.
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